Romantic relationships can be deeply affected by past psychological and emotional trauma and this impacts all future relationships. Unresolved issues from past relationships that resulted in divorce can permeate current partnerships and any potential relationships, causing distress and complications. Addressing past psychological and emotional trauma is essential to the health of your romantic relationships.

Rebuilding trust, learning to manage triggers, and boosting self-esteem are important steps toward healthy future relationships. Dr. Preeti Singh, Senior Consultant Clinical Psychology & Psychotherapy, Chief Medical Officer, Lisun says, “First we need to understand that we are seeing a very high number of divorces globally and in India, especially in the age group of 30 to 60 years. Across the age range, it’s a common thing.” The theme that emerges as a strong factor is that people do not want to continue relationships that have an emotionally and physically abusive period, where they feel disrespected, in addition to poor physical intimacy, inadequate communication. There may be difficulty in controlling emotions. Some.”

“But dealing with divorce is not an easy path, the trauma when you are in a marriage, the challenges of divorce proceedings and the emotional and physical exhaustion, even after a divorce is granted, leaves people with significantly less bandwidth. People are more vulnerable. Be overly cautious about not falling into the same relationship as your marriage, fine, but this hypervigilance can sometimes lead you to be too skeptical by signing up for the wrong person or perhaps even pushing the right person away. Can put,” Dr. Preeti highlighted.

Dr. Preeti shares a case study of how a bad marriage or divorce can affect a person’s idea of ​​finding love again. She explains, “I had a client in her 30s who saw me after her first marriage ended, which was caused by physical abuse and left her deeply traumatized. She later found someone, though. , she was seeing signs of micro aggression in that person, and she was finding it difficult to ignore it and she was quite distressed by it and she wanted to end it, she divorced the person she was dating. What was an extremely difficult situation, they were not able to resolve their conflict situations amicably, mostly due to their past trauma experiences which left them very fearful and anxious, pain and anger. And was reflected through passive aggression. Luckily after some trauma-informed individual psychotherapy sessions, the couple was ready for couples sessions, where it helped to see how reactions to trauma had shaped them into seeing them as the person they were. were not allowing them to be who they really were, and the anger and self-doubt were not allowing the relationship to flourish.”

“So yes, there is a lot of hope and anyone can find the right person, but make sure you understand how trauma has impacted you and changed you so you can heal and grow as a person. and create a nurturing relationship,” Dr. Prachi concluded.